Sunday, July 10, 2011
Tiger Tiger by Margaux Fragoso
There were so many red flags regarding their relationship throughout this story, it's hard to know which one to point to first. There were people who were suspicious but did nothing; and then there were people who should have been suspicious but weren't. I was baffled to witness such blatant, almost willful, ignorance.
The author has been criticized for being too frank and graphic in the retelling of her story, but I couldn't disagree more. It's not any more frank or graphic than any other memoir I've read, and isn't that the point for better understanding? Especially of such heinous abuse that thrives on silence and looking the other way. I couldn't believe some of the scathing reviews I've read, as if this woman hasn't been victimized enough. Being vocal about some aspects of her experience and silent about others would just support the shame that keeps so many victims from seeking help and healing at all.
Memoirs of abuse are also stories of survival. I read them to better understand human nature in all its frailties, deficiencies, resilience, and strength. Ms Fragoso is frank and unabashed, yes, but she brings much needed awareness and insight into a crime that continues to destroy lives. This is an important book that should be read by everyone in a society that wants to protect its children.